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"I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning how to sail my ship"

Louisa May Alcott

 
Couple Leaning Against Reel

A Bit About Couples Therapy

Building partnerships that enhance your life.

Many couples wait to come to counseling until there is a crisis and sometimes they wait so long that there have been too many crises to mitigate.  I view couples counseling like relationship maintenance.  You wouldn't drive you car for mile after mile and never change the oil or wait until the engine stops running to look into a tune-up, or maybe you would.  But even the procrastinators among us recognize that relationships, like cars, function better with regular maintenance.  I encourage couples to find a time interval that works for them and invest in regular maintenance.  It's a good time to talk about what is going well and what could use work, vent past hurts before they become bigger than they need to be and offer each other the encouragement and support that is easily forgotten in our day to day lives.

All too often, marriages are collateral damage in other storms of life—a job loss, the loss of a loved one, parenting a challenging child, etc. When couples are exposed to the heavy winds of difficult circumstances, all the cracks in the foundation of their relationship are exposed.  Bringing in a third party to help navigate these waters can seem scary or counterintuitive but crisis offers a good opportunity to learn the skills that help you weather future storms.   

Some of the most common area's of difficulty that occur in partner dynamics:

Parenting

Infidelity/Trust 

Communication

Intimacy

Navigating change in relationship status

Pre/Post Baby Counseling

Extended Family Relations